Saturday, April 4, 2020

350.5.  Take Five, check that, Take TEN

I’m not much of a joiner, but I recently ran across a worldwide movement I have to join, the “For God’s Sake Slow Down Movement.”  No, really, there is such a thing though as far as I know it doesn’t have an actual name and doesn’t collect dues.  But it does exist.

My whole life has been an exercise in slowing down, in taking a big breath, in sitting silently, and in refusing to rush.  Whether the issue is speeding on the highways, racing through supermarket aisles, or complaining about long lines at the DMV, or the bank, or the lineup of golf carts on the first tee, I take a deep breath—and wait.   I wasn’t born that way, mind you, I’ve got a normal metabolism, so I had to work to achieve it until at last it became second nature, a way of life. I am, in the language of the movement, a "rehabilitated speedaholic."

Actually, I have been laboring, falsely it turns out, under the impression that I am simply one of the oddballs bucking the multi-tasking, speed-up lifestyle that has overrun the globe over the last forty years, the lightning-fast years of the computer age.  But come to find out, I am right smack in a worldwide cultural revolution that is sweeping the nation.  There are people around the world in formal and informal groups that praise “downshifting” and actually use the word “deceleration.”  My kind of people.

There’s even a book called In Praise of Slowness (2004) by Carl Honoré that carries this subtitle:  How a Worldwide Movement Is Challenging the Cult of Speed.  There are chapters on eating, working, parenting, vacationing, and abandoning speed reading for slow reading.  Of course everyone is in favor of slow sex—though I’m not sure how many practice it.

The idea behind the movement is to restructure your life to achieve more meaning and fulfillment.  They call it “voluntary simplicity.”  Take pleasure in the processes of everyday life, from brushing your teeth in the morning to preparing for bed in the evening.  Slow down to enjoy it all.

It’s a whole “community of slow” we’re talking about here.

Makes sense to me.   

Wednesday, April 1, 2020

350.4.  A Normal Life

My simple goal in life has been the same for as long as I can remember:  try to live out a “normal” life span.  I didn’t have grand dreams, just wanted what I took to be the normal things of the average man’s life.  That would be perfect I thought, a family man  And happily, in the twilight of my life, as I prepare for my 78th birthday on April 28, 2020, I can report on my “normalcy,” to use a famous word coined by Warren Harding in the 1920 presidential election.  For me, normal has looked something like this.
 
1.      First, I got to become Bobbi Brunson’s husband. 
2.      I got to be the father of two perfect daughters.                          
3.      I got to be a working man and kept the same job for 32 years.
4.      I got to travel with Miss Bobbi all over the world.
5.      I got to be a pretty fair golfer, a very good shooter on the basketball court, and a steady but slow long distance runner.
6.      I got to live in three very nice houses, about 15 years each.
7.      I got a college education at Rutgers.
8.      I got a Ph.D. at NYU.
9.      I got to study with brilliant professors.
10.  I got to write the biography of John Ciardi in 1998.
11.  I got a CHOICE magazine award for it:  Best Academic Book of the Year.
12.  I got to write movie reviews for a NJ daily newspaper for 12 years.
13.  I got around to writing my autobiography Random Miracles in 2011.
14.  I got to publish Longfellow in Love in 2018, my venture into popular history on an unpopular writer.
15.  I got to retire and collect Social Security and a pension.
16.  I and Miss Bobbi got to celebrate our 50th wedding anniversary on the Nile River.
17.  I got to live long enough to know and like six really neat grandchildren, now ages 12-23.
18.  I got to be friends with more people than I ever thought possible.  Way more.  And almost a total surprise to me.

There were misfires and mistakes along the way, but there were so many blessings to be grateful for that I hardly know how to begin counting them.  Normal?  Ah well, probably not.   

350.5.   Take Five, check that, Take TEN I’m not much of a joiner, but I recently ran across a worldwide movement I have to join, the...